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Kintsukuroi – I Guess We Have to be Broken

A few years ago my son and I had a very bad day. As I tucked him in, I hugged him, and prayed out loud, “Oh Lord, I put a hole in this dear kid’s heart today. With my mean face and impatient, harsh words. Please forgive me. Would you fill in that hole I made? Will your light and love chase away the yucky darkness?”

Enough time had passed since my outburst, so Caleb was in the place to hug me tightly back and I say, “I forgive you, Mom. I know you love me.” I laid there holding him in silence a long time. I hate that I hurt his heart. I struggled to believe God would really fix it.

We’ve all been broken. Sometimes we are jerks, and we toss someone’s heart on the floor. Sometimes other people are jerks and our hearts get shattered. My kids have had pieces chipped off by peers, teachers, their own choices, pain, and me.

God and I had a conversation a long time ago, when I felt too broken to be a wife, mom, or friend anymore. I was done, and finally at the point of surrender.

God: I love you. I see a big chunk got knocked right off you. Can I help you?

Me: I already fixed it.

God: Yes, I see. Is that gum and rubber cement?

Me: I’m doing my best here.

God: I know. I love you. What if you let me do this one tiny piece?

Me: [Sigh] Fine.

This is Kinstukuroi: Kintsugi (Japanese: golden repair) is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with lacquer dusted or mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum, a method similar to the maki-e technique. As a philosophy it treats breakage and repair as part of the history of an object, rather than something to disguise. (Wikipedia)

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Kinstukuroi is about Grace. The Holy Spirit is like a generous, tinkering, endlessly creative Artist. He joyfully finds the broken pieces, cleans them off, and fits it all back together. Then the cracks are repaired/healed. But he’s not the Janitor, using super glue or rough staples. He’s a very wealthy Artist, and he uses gold.

I like to think that the gold filling in our painful cracks is God himself. He’s not just fixing us. He’s forgiving us and healing us with endless grace. He’s pouring himself out. He’s joyfully celebrating our willingness to let him in. He’s making us more like him, more holy and beautiful than before.

That night as I lay curled up with my child, now forgiven, the Artist was at work. I pictured him singing as he shook powdered gold into the cracks I put in my son’s heart. I pictured his keen, tender eyes as he poured more gold into the cracks of my shame. He saw it all, he heard my repentance, and he was making us both whole again. He’s willing to do this everyday.

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The piece is more beautiful for having been broken.

When my Zoë saw this image she asked me what it meant. She quietly soaked in every word and asked me to print out two copies, one for her locker and one for her nightstand.

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Zoë’s nightstand. She framed the printout herself.

Part of me is sad that my daughter resonates with Kintsukuroi at 11 years old. I wish she was unmarred. But she’s been broken. She’s been healed. And she’s beginning to believe she might be more beautiful and valuable because of it.

I am beginning to believe it, too.

You are loved.

 


More Thoughts on Kintsukuroi:

  • “I am forgotten as though I were dead; I have become like broken pottery.” – Psalm 31:12
  • Scorn has broken my heart and has left me helpless; I looked for sympathy, but there was none, for comforters, but I found none.” – Psalm 69:20
  • “But their swords will pierce their own hearts, and their bows will be broken.” – Psalm 37:15
  • “You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens.” – RumiK breaking-your-heart1
  • “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” – Psalm 34:18
  • “My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise.” – Psalm 51:17
  • “In this world you will have trouble, but take heart, I have overcome the world.” – John 16:33
  • “And the disciples were filled with joy and with the Holy Spirit.” – Acts 13:52
  • “Break my heart. Oh, break it again, so I can love more fully.” – Rumi

Kintsukuroi Playlist: (linked to iTunes if you want to hear them)

 

I am unfolding the idea of Surrender throughout the month of October.  


To read more about our shared spiritual journey and questions, you can read here:  Soul

© Aimee Fritz and Family Compassion Focus, 2015. 

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